After re-evaluating the people I gave access to me,  I realized that I spent all my relationships both friendships and intimate trying to make them better into better people when they didn't do the same for me. My actions caused me to lose so much time. For so long and still to this day it's me who is always the listener which I don't mind however , it would be nice for me to have an ear too. There's always the "strong" friend in the group that nobody thinks twice about. We always get the shorter end. For some reason we're believed to have everything together because we are always able to help them get through the crises they face BUT that's not true. Even the strong get tired of always being strong. The point I'm trying to make is focus on yourself and making yourself better before the next person. You'll loose yourself in someone else trying to make them better when they don't do the same for you; then it's only you who ends up with nothing. For along time I was angry with myself for how I handled things , how I allowed people to handle me but I feel better most days knowing I took the same to think and control what it was that make me upset. I soon became happier. The only thing in life that we do have control over is our thoughts; therefore if you aren't thinking healthy it's impossible for your heart to grow to be.